Am I Kinky?

When ever engaging in sexual activities, the word kinky comes up. I find that I am forced to ponder what kinky really means in general and specifically in my life. So what is kinky?

According to Mr. Merriam-Webster Dictionary, kinky is an adjective with three possible meanings: closely twisted or curled, relating to, having, or appealing to unconventional tastes especially in sex or also sexually deviant, and finally outlandish or far out. Well there it is folks, unconventional sexual practices that could be considered deviant. Anyone who has taken a sociology class knows that deviance is basically not following the norms set by society.

But what is truly unconventional? Is role playing unconventional? If so, then I am unconventional. Is washing the dishes while being pounded from behind kinky? If so then I am kinky. Is talking on the phone with my lover while he is getting a blow job from another girl so all three of us can get off deviant? If so, then I guess I am also deviant.

Okay, so I have to admit I might be a little kinky. But I have met and slept with people whose tastes are quite unconventional, even by my standards. I have also slept with people who are pretty vanilla, where they don’t stray from the same 5 sex positions.

So how do we as people know if we are kinky? How can we introduce ourselves as kinky and have our sexual partner know if that really matches what they desire? I fear by labeling myself as kinky, I will draw people who expect something totally different from sexual activities than I do. I have read a book called Fetish that describes BDSM and other “unconventional” sexual practices, offers definitions for the vocabulary of “kinky” sex practices, and mentions tools of the trade. From this book, I learned more about the practices I like and acquired some ideas. The book was very informative and I quite enjoyed reading it. Based on the content in the book, I would assume my brand of kinky is rather tame. And this, I suppose, is how I would describe myself to perspective lovers.

Sex 4 You

I do not claim to be an expert on sexuality and/or sexual practices. However, I do claim to enjoy sexual contact and to be extremely interested in the discussion of sexual encounters. I do wish more people were as open to discussing their sex lives as I am. That is why I was inspired to create this blog. I will discuss sex and the practices in that area. I hope to learn more about the realm of sexuality and to impart some knowledge on others. Please consider commenting.